I have had that picture above with the pregnant belly and cigarette/beer on my desktop for awhile now, trying to decide whether or not I wanted to share it on my blog. I love it. I think it speaks volumes. We have people that wouldn’t dare drink alcohol or smoke while pregnant, yet feel like it’s okay to have an abortion. I don’t get it. Apparently, the thing in your belly is fragile enough to want to protect it from alcohol and nicotine… that is if you want to keep it. However, if you don’t want to have a baby at this time, then you can just kill it.
Now, let me say this: If you are not lying to yourself about it being a baby… you know it’s a baby…. you know you are killing a living being… then whatever, I guess I’m not talking to you. Who I am talking to are those of you who would like to try to say that it’s ‘not a baby yet’ until whatever time you want to say… 20 weeks, 30 weeks, or maybe not until it actually comes out of the mother?? It’s those of you who believe all that that I want to address. If it’s not a baby until it comes out, then why does it matter what we eat or drink while pregnant?? If it’s not a baby til it comes out, then why do doctors and nurses fight to save the life of a ‘thing’ inside your belly if it seems to be in distress? Why bother? It’s not a baby yet, anyway!
Now that I’ve gone off on a bit of a rant, I will say that if you have made this choice in your past and you aren’t happy with your decision… now is the time to forgive yourself. The past is the past. You did what you thought you had to do. Stop beating yourself up. If you have had an abortion and you thought it was the right thing and still think it was the right thing, then I say this: don’t allow me to create guilt in your mind. This post truly isn’t meant to make you feel bad about yourself. You know what it’s meant to do? Hopefully make people think! There IS a baby in your belly! It lives off the food you eat, hears you talk, feels you move, its’ heart beats, he sucks his thumb, and rubs his eyes. It is a baby. Period.
I’m sorry to go off on a tangent, but it drives me crazy to hear the argument, it’s not a baby. Tell that to the families who had babies at 26 weeks and watched their baby grow up to be an adult!
And finally, I know there are situations, like rape, where a woman would not want that baby because it would be a constant reminder of that horrible experience. I totally get that. I do pray, though, that if that ever happened to me, that I would have the strength to give that baby to a family that could love it. That wouldn’t see my attacker every time they looked in his eyes. I can’t know what I would do; I realize that, but that is my hope.
I know this is a touchy subject and I don’t normally post on such things, but it was weighing on my heart to share this.