I have had that picture above with the pregnant belly and cigarette/beer on my desktop for awhile now, trying to decide whether or not I wanted to share it on my blog. I love it. I think it speaks volumes. We have people that wouldn’t dare drink alcohol or smoke while pregnant, yet feel like it’s okay to have an abortion. I don’t get it. Apparently, the thing in your belly is fragile enough to want to protect it from alcohol and nicotine… that is if you want to keep it. However, if you don’t want to have a baby at this time, then you can just kill it.
Now, let me say this: If you are not lying to yourself about it being a baby… you know it’s a baby…. you know you are killing a living being… then whatever, I guess I’m not talking to you. Who I am talking to are those of you who would like to try to say that it’s ‘not a baby yet’ until whatever time you want to say… 20 weeks, 30 weeks, or maybe not until it actually comes out of the mother?? It’s those of you who believe all that that I want to address. If it’s not a baby until it comes out, then why does it matter what we eat or drink while pregnant?? If it’s not a baby til it comes out, then why do doctors and nurses fight to save the life of a ‘thing’ inside your belly if it seems to be in distress? Why bother? It’s not a baby yet, anyway!
It’s just a big clump of cells… That happen to resemble a tiny human being…
Now that I’ve gone off on a bit of a rant, I will say that if you have made this choice in your past and you aren’t happy with your decision… now is the time to forgive yourself. The past is the past. You did what you thought you had to do. Stop beating yourself up. If you have had an abortion and you thought it was the right thing and still think it was the right thing, then I say this: don’t allow me to create guilt in your mind. This post truly isn’t meant to make you feel bad about yourself. You know what it’s meant to do? Hopefully make people think! There IS a baby in your belly! It lives off the food you eat, hears you talk, feels you move, its’ heart beats, he sucks his thumb, and rubs his eyes. It is a baby. Period.
I’m sorry to go off on a tangent, but it drives me crazy to hear the argument, it’s not a baby. Tell that to the families who had babies at 26 weeks and watched their baby grow up to be an adult!
And finally, I know there are situations, like rape, where a woman would not want that baby because it would be a constant reminder of that horrible experience. I totally get that. I do pray, though, that if that ever happened to me, that I would have the strength to give that baby to a family that could love it. That wouldn’t see my attacker every time they looked in his eyes. I can’t know what I would do; I realize that, but that is my hope.
I know this is a touchy subject and I don’t normally post on such things, but it was weighing on my heart to share this.
It’s brave to say these words, and I applaud you for that bravery. I was speaking to a woman last night who believed through people’s experiences with birth regression that consciousness goes back to the moment of conception. My husband said something similar to me recently, as well. And why wouldn’t human consciousness begin then?
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You rock~ Thank you for the heartfelt blog post.
“A person is a person, no matter how small”
~From Dr. Suess’s “Horton Hears a Who,” but it applies to babies :)
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My “cluster of cells” had a name even before he was a cluster :) So for me, he was a baby as soon as we started trying to get pregnant. Think about how Dr’s calculate a baby’s gestational age, they count from the start of your last period…2 weeks before baby even existed!! So whether they admit it or not
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Well said. Thank you.
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Can I just say ditto!!! I am glad you had the courage…. why should we have to have courage??? It is crazy that ANYONE should keep quiet about such a wonderful blessing. I almost lost one at 26weeks… and believe me, he was very much a baby to me when I was faced with losing him… I can’t imagine not giving substance to such a miracle. Well said…:)
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I know its a tough one to tackle, but I’m glad you did. We are currently in the very beginnings of our second pregnancy, there never has been or never will be a doubt that my babies have babies since conception. This week my baby has a heartbeat, anything with a heartbeat is a living thing! Its my baby, I love him/her….because yes, sex has already been determined! I can’t imagine not believing that, aside from the moral stand, it saddens me because I feel that mothers that believe that miss SO much. How can you fully enjoy being pregnant if you don’t believe its a real thing yet? Through my first pregnancy I actually came to recognize my baby boys personality. His likes, his dislikes. And you know what, they were right! He still loves the foods he would get excited about me eating way back then, he is very opinionated just like he was then. They are more than cells, more than fetuses….they are living, breathing, thinking, feeling tiny human beings with great big personalities. I’m sorry for those women who never got to experience that/chose not to experience that because they believe the lie. Pregnancy is amazing!
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Well said. It is sad when we are brainwashed into thinking that life isn’t important, valued, or worth fighting for. We live in a society where killing a baby is a “tough decision,” but when a mother abuses her child it is the headline news because who could do THAT to a child. Both horrific but for some reason murder is excusable. Just sad.
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Good for you! You have a blog that may affect just one reader who is struggling with this issue right now. You have to follow your calling, even if it goes against the stream!
Melanie
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I’m so with you on this one. It seems that many pro-choice individuals never want to really address these kinds of issues. When is a baby actually a baby? For me, life begins at conception. That “cluster of cells” is going to grow into a beautiful baby in just a matter of 9 months. It’s incredible! So I will never be convinced that the cluster of cells doesn’t deserve a chance at a life. It IS a life. If you ask me, that’s no different than killing an infant and saying it’s okay because it wasn’t an adult yet. That scenario would be murder. But abortion is okay. It boggles the mind.
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