This is for all you Mommas out there whom had a birth experience that didn’t go as planned.
Maybe you dreamed of a home birth, but ended up in the hospital for one reason or another.
Maybe once you got to the hospital, you got some things you never planned on getting… pain killers, Pitocin, ultrasound, or maybe even a c-section.
Maybe you started out in the hospital and planned on having your baby naturally, with no epidural or any other intervention, but you got it anyway.
Things don’t always go as planned.
Mommas, I want you to hear me on this…
You did great! Your baby is beautiful and whether it is your first baby or your 5th, you will love it more than you ever thought possible.
I have a friend that recently had her third baby.
Her first was born in a hospital setting. Her second was born at home. For her third, she deeply wanted to have another home birth.
Things did not go as planned. Shortly after, she posted this to Facebook:
“I was going to write a note to share Annabel’s birth experience and explain how I ended up in the hospital, but I can’t do it. The basic truth is I am weak and I failed to properly prepare. I gave up and asked for pain meds. There are no second chances. I get no do overs. There is nothing I can do to change what happened and I will be haunted by this for eternity. That’s what happened. No comments are necessary.”
Mommas… I beg you… Stop putting so much pressure on yourselves!
This should never be the feelings and thoughts you are having after giving birth to your sweet baby.
Because you know what?
That baby in your arms can feel your love. She does not see you as a failure. Not in the least.
And her big sister, loves her so much she wants to do her school with her on the bed right next to her. That sister doesn’t care HOW she came into this world. She only cares that she’s here.
And her big brother? He doesn’t think you are weak at all. He knows you are so strong and is just happy he is able to give his new sister lots of love.
No one wants you to do ANYTHING over.
They are so proud of their Momma. And they love their little sister so much.
So, Mommas, please don’t allow your failed expectations to haunt you.
Know that whatever happened, happened the way it needed to happen.
And, please, know that no one thinks you are weak or a failure.
The fact that you even care how your baby came into this world, shows how good of a mother you truly are to your kids.
Embrace your birth. Embrace it.
It gave you the child that will cause you to have feelings of love you never knew you were capable of having.
And, remember, she doesn’t care how she came into this world. She’s just happy to have you. And you are the strong woman she will look up to for the rest of her life.
Not all births can go as planned. Embrace your birth and be okay with it. Do not allow it to paralyze you.