When you think about a beautiful person, the first things that come to your mind are probably things like their eyes, smile and kindness. A person’s nipples are not something one generally thinks of when they think of beauty.
Listen, I know this sounds like a strange thing to write about, but I promise there is a reason for it, so please just stick with me for a little bit longer.
I have a friend who recently had to have a cancerous lump in her breast removed.
The lump just happened to be near her nipple and it couldn’t be salvaged.
What that means is that she now has one breast that is missing a nipple. That breast is also a different shape than the other one.
As much as we say that the first things we think about in someone else when we think about beauty is their smile, eyes, and kindness… When we are looking at ourselves in the mirror, we look at so much more. We criticize so much more.
And, we need to stop.
I was talking to my friend on the phone and she said something to the effect of, “Now I’m ugly.”
My immediate response was, “That’s ridiculous. I’m positive your husband doesn’t find you ugly. I know he still thinks you are just as beautiful with one nipple.”
Her husband heard what I said and he yelled out, “Exactly! Thank you!”
Here’s the thing… When he met her and fell in love, he didn’t fall in love with her nipples.
He fell in love with her heart. He fell in love with the way she lights up every room she steps into. He fell in love with the sparkle in her eyes when they met his.
None of that has changed just because one of her breasts is shaped a bit differently than the other one.
Getting a cancer diagnosis is never fun. Making the decision to have a part of your body removed is not fun, either.
It’s hard. It sucks.
It plays with your mind.
You wonder if the treatment and body changes are worth it.
I’m here to tell you that yes, it is worth it. However you choose to treat a health challenge is difficult. Whether that is going the medical route, alternative options, or a combination of both… there will be challenges and times of doubt.
There are two things I never want you to doubt: your worth and your beauty.
You are worth it. You are beautiful.
Beauty is so much more than perfectly shaped breasts with nipples.
Beauty is the love in your eyes when you look at your loved ones.
Beauty is the kindness you show others on a daily basis.
Beauty is keeping yourself healthy so you can be around to enjoy your loved ones for a long time and allow them to enjoy your company as well.
If you ever have to lose a nipple (or more), I promise your husband will see you as the same beautiful woman he saw before the surgery. He did not fall in love with your nipples.
I pray I helped at least one person reading this.
Please know you are loved, you are worth it, and you are so beautiful!
Share this with all the beautiful people in your life (everyone!)… We all have moments of doubt and this might just make their day!
I have a friend who is happily married and has 3 kids. She has no nipples, and never did. She has breasts,just no nipples. She has nothing wrong with her. I hadn’t never heard of anyone with that situation. But all is well, when she was young she was embarrassed about it. So yes, everyone just looks
for the character you have.
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I have a friend who is happily married has 3 kids…She has no nipples. There is nothing wrong with her. She couldn’t nurse, of course but otherwise all was well. I hadn’t never heard of anyone that way.
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I am so proud to call you family!
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Nicole @ Some Call It Natural Reply:
September 27th, 2016 at 10:31 AM
You just made me tear up! Love you, cousin!
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